Alan asked that I describe my “perfect” man, and I’ve given it some serious thought.  When it comes to perfection, I believe two seemingly conflicting notions, there is no such thing as perfect and we are all perfect:

1. There is no such thing as “perfection”. 

Since Plato, and probably before, humans have believed in a pure, perfect form, an unachievable ideal that we all understand as the concept underlying the “real”, “imperfect” objects around us.

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FROM WIKIPEDIA.COM:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Essentialism

Plato was one of the first essentialists, believing in the concept of ideal forms, an abstract entity of which individual objects are mere facsimilies.

To give an example; the ideal form of a circle is a perfect circle, something that is physically impossible to make manifest, yet the circles that we draw and observe clearly have some idea in common - this idea is the ideal form. Plato believed that these ideas are eternal and vastly superior to their manifestations in the world, and that we understand these manifestations in the material world by comparing and relating them to their respective ideal form.

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I don’t believe that there is an “ideal form” that we can compare and contrast with things we find in the real world.  This is a round about way of saying that I don’t believe in a ”perfect man”.

2. We are all “perfect”. 

That each of us are exactly as we were meant to be with all our differences and complexities.  Since Hegel, and probably before, human beings have believed in a kind of perfection that comes from the complexities of real life.

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FROM STUDIES ON COMPARATIVE PHILOSOPHY:

http://www.swami-krishnananda.org/com/com hege.html 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/British_idealism#British_idealism

Mind and Nature are not two distinct realms but phases of the evolution of the Absolute which manifests itself everywhere in the universe, in matter and mind, in the individual and society, in history, science, art, religion and philosophy, all at once. The Absolute is the Reality. Its essence is Reason.

The universe is conceived as a logical or rational system, a process of the workings of the Absolute Reason. The Reason is the supreme. Everything is an embodiment of Reason. There is the Reason exhibited in every action, every movement, every thought; the life of the universe becomes the more rational, the more it unfolds in itself the Absolute Reason.

In Logic, Nature and Spirit can be discovered the three stages of the evolution of the Absolute towards the realisation of Self-consciousness. The Absolute Spirit is the goal or the consummation of the activity of the Reason. All the parts of the universe are organically determined by the purpose of the whole which is the Absolute and which is logically prior to all the parts. No part has meaning or reality apart from its organic relation to the whole. Hegel’s system is the famous logical or absolute idealism

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I believe that everything is interconnected and has an ”Absolute Reason”, which I take to mean that everything has some sort of purpose connected to the whole.  This is a round about way of saying that every man is a “perfect man.”

That being said, I can still describe what I find attractive in men and what I think would make someone a good match for me.  But I have taken up enough space here already… see “My Perfect Man: Part 2″.

-Your Perfect Woman