Hopeful: votes = 29
I want her to be beautiful, which means
(on the outside):
thin or athletic,
weighs less than 150 lbs
big boobs, like Jennifer Anniston,
nice face, like Jennifer Anniston, Heather Locklear, Molly Ringwald,
Liv Tyler or Serena Altschul,
hair and eye color doesn’t matter as long as she has hair and eyes,
hair is around shoulder length or longer
she isn’t crosseyed
around age 30,
at least 5′ tall,
has no kids, but wants them with me,
is not disabled
(on the inside):
likes to touch, hug, kiss, hold hands; cuddling is ok,
means it when we touch, kiss, hold hands, cuddle, have sex, etc.,
cares about my feelings, my mental and physical health,
likes sex and intimacy with me,
doesn’t cheat on me,
smells ok (doesn’t smell gross; keeps clean),
doesn’t criticize or complain too much, especially about things I
do,
non judgemental,
not overly obsessive about things,
not paranoid,
If she has had a mental illness, she has been treated for it and it
is not noticable,
not too bossy,
doesn’t consider herself right all the time, able to compromise,
stands up for and defends the ones she cares about,
responsible,
junior college grad or higher,
likes movies, video games, stories, fitness, art,
has a positive attitude,
likes people, is a people person, sociable,
doesn’t mind shy or sometimes quiet guys,
likes to talk about a variety of different things, is generally not
at a loss for words,
doesn’t like illegal activity,
doesn’t do drugs and doesn’t like alcohol
doesn’t smoke except maybe a cigar a few times a year
when she gets to know me, she likes what she finds, then
loves me.
December 27th, 2007 at 10:48 am
Dear Hopeful, thank you for your participation!
Your Perfect Woman sounds like a positive, caring, pleasant person. I like that you said that she could have a mental illness as long as she was treating it. Many people suffer from mental illnesses and it can be a serious sigma, but the important part is that they seek help.
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FROM GENDER AND WOMEN’S MENTAL HEALTH:
//www.who.int/mental_health/prevention/genderwomen/en/
Despite being common, mental illness is underdiagnosed by doctors. Less than half of those who meet diagnostic criteria for psychological disorders are identified by doctors.
Patients, too, appear reluctant to seek professional help. Only 2 in every 5 people experiencing a mood, anxiety or substance use disorder seeking assistance in the year of the onset of the disorder.
Overall rates of psychiatric disorder are almost identical for men and women but striking gender differences are found in the patterns of mental illness.
Gender differences occur particularly in the rates of common mental disorders - depression, anxiety and somatic complaints. These disorders, in which women predominate, affect approximately 1 in 3 people in the community and constitute a serious public health problem.
Unipolar depression, predicted to be the second leading cause of global disability burden by 2020, is twice as common in women.
Depression is not only the most common women’s mental health problem but may be more persistent in women than men. More research is needed.
Reducing the overrepresentation of women who are depressed would contribute significantly to lessening the global burden of disability caused by psychological disorders.
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You are the first person to mention smoking, drugs and alcohol… I wonder if this is a concern for other men.
Thank you and good luck,
-Your Perfect Woman
January 2nd, 2008 at 7:29 am
Thanks, PerfectWoman. This is a lot of good information, valuable even if I don’t win the competition, although I hope I do.
January 9th, 2008 at 1:43 pm
You’re welcome and good luck!
-Your Perfect Woman
February 21st, 2008 at 7:24 pm
Who in hell does this hopeful idiot think he is? A man with appreciation for perfection has no entitlement to define, yet this man (and I use the term ‘man’ loosely) has the audacity to stipulate the terms of perfection! My-goodness, how the selfish have come up in the world; so high on ego they claim to see even perfection from way up there.
Please tell this hopeful idiot to take his expectations and shove them up his A$$!
February 22nd, 2008 at 6:07 am
Isn’t this project partly about defining what guys view as perfection? Who I think I am is a human being following the rules of this competition. As far as expectations are concerned, I don’t have any. What I’ve described was a fantasy woman, who doesn’t exist. I don’t expect anyone, not even Your Perfect Woman to be or become exactly that.
So before you call me “idiot,” “selfish,” not a man, audacious, or “high on ego,” please take that into consideration and shove it up your own ass. Would appreciate that.
February 23rd, 2008 at 4:45 pm
Realize that perfection cannot be defined. Realize the rule of human condition is not a natural order. Realize that words are defined by reasonable expectation (nonsense); expression is rooted in sense.
Perfection is possible to express for sense, as all life has sense, all life is expressing perfection. The definition of perfection is an artifact of consciousness, being that only humans endeavor to reason or define.
When a human opens it’s mouth, and only words come out, there is no sense that the living is communicating through that open mouth; in this way, your words equate to thoughts-out-loud. Thinking out loud is an entirely selfish act.
Grow-up dude
Express what you feel. You don’t always have to talk like a human!
p.s. We could continue this discussion elsewhere.
February 23rd, 2008 at 11:50 pm
tonyo i wouldnt call a guy an ass lol.. but i must agree on you… to be honest.. i am pretty good looking guy.. but i the physical appearance isnt the most important thing to me.. Inside aspects are those that matter the most.. and i myself… find it very… emotionless if someone care more about appearence than.. feelings .. emotions.. and how the person is from inside so heh.. dunno Hopeful m8 dont get me wrong didnt mean to offend but yeah.. you are maybe just abit too much attracted to .. physical appearence. Dunno i might be worng.. from my perspective, Perfect Woman is very very interesting person and i would like to meet her like that, and to be Perfect.. well you can only be perfect to one person.. cuz as we can see.. everyone has his own idea of perfection.. and mine would be being yourself.. hehe Well i think i described all this abit better in my submission.. well anyways. Wish you good luck, Cheers! and tonyo loving u man hehe
September 24th, 2008 at 11:12 pm
Keep in mind that you can only ask for perfection if you are perfect yourself. It is our flaws that make us equal with our partners because they give us the humility to bend and work with each other. I think this is especially true when you say that you basically wouldn’t consider a woman with a disability, especially a visible one. I pray that you never have an unfortunate accident or develop a mental illness as, according to your own levels of acceptance, you would find yourself alone.