Wisperz:
for me it is quite simple. the perfect woman firstly doesnt
exist. relationships are work and it takes two people to make them
work, however, to be close to perffect all she needs is a sexual
attraction and a fun attitude towards her own sexuality. essentially
to enjoy it. a happy person that can roll with the highs and lows
that life throws at us. sounds simple doesnt it .
December 19th, 2007 at 7:00 pm
Dear Whisperz, thank you for your participation!
Your Perfect Woman sounds like lots of women out there… then again, there is the old saying “not tonight dear, I have a headache.”
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FROM PLEASE DEAR, NOT TONIGHT: THE TRUTH ABOUT WOMEN AND SEX: WHAT THEY WANT, WHAT THEY’RE NOT GETTING AND WHY:
//www.amazon.com/Please-Dear-Not-Tonight-Getting/dp/0974350486
Watch any TV show (from sitcoms to soaps), go to the movies or catch any stand-up comedian (especially the likes of Leno and Letterman), and you’ll hear the jokes… the guy wants sex and the woman says, “Please dear… not tonight. I have a headache.” Everyone in the audience (including the women), roar with laughter, leaving us with the stereotypical image of the man dying a slow and painful death due to his frigid partner. One might think with such an image that he loves her desperately at the same time that she shuns his romantic approach for reasons that have to do with disinterest, selfishness, power, or control. The bitch!
And yet, has anyone asked the average woman on the street what the real story is behind the mysterious headaches that seem to occur just as the opportunity to have sex arrives? Is it that women simply lose their interest in sex as they age and men do not? Is it that men just need and desire sex more often than women? Is there something wrong with women – some dysfunction? Or could it be that the male mid-life crisis combined with the ready availability of Viagra keeps men chasing and energized more so than their female counterparts?
Why do women really have all “those” headaches?
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I know I’ve had times when I wasn’t in the mood. I wonder if all women have those moments… and what about men, don’t they have times when they don’t feel like having sex?
Thank you and good luck,
-Your Perfect Woman
December 22nd, 2007 at 3:06 pm
Yes, Your Perfect Woman, there are times when men don’t feel like having sex… it’s called the times we sleep. In all seriousness, I think every person — regardless of gender — goes through phases of not wishing to be physically intimate with another person. The important difference, to me, is that a significant other still remains emotionally intimate during these times.
January 24th, 2008 at 7:06 am
geez, it seems i hit a nerve with the sexuality comment. i do believe both men and women go through periods where they dont wish to be intimate. too tired, not in the mood, etc. for both men and women it should be understood and accepted. i liked the comment of seele-brennt. the emotional part should still be present and there is nothing wrong with just touching, kissing, cuddling. it re enforces the emotional connection.