PhontonNatzi: votes = 3
I wish for a woman who loves me, just as I am, with all my weaknesses,
my flaws, my quirks.
A woman who allows me… no, WANTS me to love her, just as she is, with
all her weaknesses, her flaws, and her quirks.
I wish for a woman who completes me: who picks up where I leave off,
who’s strong where I am weak, who is willing to let me fill in where she
is short, who lets me support when she falters.
I wish for a woman who’s strong and balanced. Not for someone who’s
going to hide behind me, or someone who wants to subdue me. Someone who
needs me to be at my prime to stand next to her, in her own best stance,
and who wishes to walk shoulder to shoulder through the difficulties and
joys that life will throw at us.
I wish for someone who loves me more than they dislike me, someone who
is my friend at all times, even when they are critical, who’s my partner
in times when one person alone would crumble, who’s my lover when one
person alone would shiver, who’s good company for on the long walk that
is This Life (obviously, being a good conversationalist is critical,
’cause… you have a whole life time to chat while you enjoy the
stroll).
Yeh.. and on the practical side - someone who does not have a bunch of
baggage.. no kids yet, and certainly no psycho ex’s… um.. not up to
her eyes in debt, or wanting to get us there together… someone who’s
healthy.. ’cause.. while enjoying your life together is grand, it’s even
better if that enjoyment is prolonged via a healthy lifestyle.
Um… and.. in bed… well… all’s fair in love and war?? how about
all’s fair in love making and warefare. Fair enough to mention it.
Should say: I wouldn’t think that having a perfect sex partner is nearly
as important as having a LOVING partner.. just to put things in
perspective.
Of course, I could not marry anyone who is not Masaai like me and my
parents. So, you must also be Masaai.
October 30th, 2007 at 10:31 am
Dear PhotonNatzi, thank you for your participation!
Your Perfect Woman sounds equitable, supportive and practical. She is a partner on many levels: emotional, temperamental, social, fiscal, physical and cultural.
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FROM BENEFITS OF EQUITABLE RELATIONSHIPS: THE IMPACT OF SENSE OF FAIRNESS, HOUSEHOLD DIVISION OF LABOR, AND DECISION MAKING POWER ON PERCEIVED SOCIAL SUPPORT – STATISTICAL DATA INCLUDED:
//findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m2294/is_2001_May/ai_80073590/pg_1
Are perceptions of social support maximized in equitable relationships? Although social support is an important determinant of an individual’s well-being and adjustment to stressful life events (Gerstel, Riessman, & Rosenfield, 1985; Mirowsky & Ross, 1986; Ross, Mirowsky, & Goldsteen, 1990; Wheaton, 1985), few studies have explored what conditions lead to the highest perceptions of social support. Marriage has consistently been found to be an important determinant of social support, presumably because married individuals are more socially integrated than the single, divorced or widowed (Gerstel et al., 1985; Ross, 1995; Ross & Mirowsky, 1989; Turner & Marino, 1994). However, marriage does not ensure feelings of being supported (Beach, Martin, Blum, & Roman, 1993) and some long-term relationships are characterized by more mutual support than are others (Ross, 1995). This paper examines these variations in perceived social support among individuals in intimate relationships.
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I wonder what it would take to become an equitable and supportive partner.
Thank you and good luck,
-Your Perfect Woman
October 30th, 2007 at 12:12 pm
FROM WIKIPEDIA:
//en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maasai
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The Maasai are an indigenous African ethnic group of semi-nomadic people located in Kenya and northern Tanzania. Due to their distinctive customs and dress and residence near the many game parks of East Africa, they are among the most well-known African ethnic groups internationally.[3] They speak Maa,[3] a Nilo-Saharan language related to Dinka, Nuer, Turkana and Songhai. The Maasai population has been variously estimated as 377,089 from the 1989 Census[1] or as 453,000 language speakers in Kenya in 1994[2] and 430,000 in Tanzania in 1993[2] with a total estimated as “approaching 900,000″[3] Estimates of the respective Maasai populations in both countries are complicated by the remote locations of many villages, their semi-nomadic nature and their being the only ethnic group allowed free travel over the Kenyan-Tanzanian border.
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November 3rd, 2007 at 7:26 pm
One of the things I forgot to mention…
I’m always shocked and a little dismayed that people who love each other at times can act with such brutality towards one another.. I’m not OK with that.
I’d like to add that my perfect woman is someone who understands that acting maliciously towards me, or accepting any malice from me, is totally out of the question. People who love each other find ways to communicate, and when the communication de-escalates into aggression they have to lean on maturity and pull back away, cool off, and return to the table with clear heads, or at least, not steaming hot tempers.
Perfect Woman - Love and restraint not War and abandon!
November 7th, 2007 at 8:22 pm
This is good advice in general.
January 24th, 2008 at 7:14 am
i read and enjoyed your version of the perfect women however i just couldnt help but comment on the last part. you mention having a loving partner is much more important than having a perfect sexual partner. hhmm, makes me wonder. will you be having an affair after a few years because you are not satified with your “perfect” partner. sex is part of a relationship and it is an important part.